70 Self-Care Isn’t Selfish It’s Your Responsibility

Hunter Clarke-Fields

In the 90s Oprah had a life coach on who said something that shocked her studio audience of suburban moms.

She had asked the audience to make a list of all the priorities in their lives.
Then she asked, “Where are you on that list?”
Lots of the audience did not have themselves on the list at all.

Then she made her outrageous suggestion:
“You should be the #1 priority on your list.”

The audience booed. Oprah said, “Hold on,” and asked them why they booed.
Oprah said, “It doesn’t mean that others are kicked off your list when you put yourself first.”

We’ve come a long way since then.
Or have we?

If you made a list of priorities, who would be on your list?
Where would you be on your list?

Many moms tell me that taking care of themselves is not a priority.
If you are really honest with yourself, is that you?

The thing is, if you are not #1 on your list, you’re realizing a fundamental truth:

You cannot give what you do not have. 

If you are not taking care of you, you are gyping your children and your family. You are offering them a second-rate version of you.
And you are role-modeling a life of “not worthy.”

Making yourself a priority isn’t selfish. In fact, it’s the opposite.
It’s called taking responsibility.

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