434: Best Of - Top 5 Episodes of 2023

2023 has been an amazing year on the podcast! What were the most-downloaded episodes? We will count them down from number 5 to number 1 on this episode with clips from each one. You’ll hear parts of these top 5 episodes:

  • Conscious Parenting Roadmap - Dr. Shefali [390]

  • [Mindful Parenting Coaching] How to Hold Space for Big Emotions [384]

  • Mindfulness For Busy Parents - Shonda Moralis [383]

  • How to help ADHD Kids - Seth Perler [386]

  • How To Handle Boys & Aggression - Tosha Schore [392]

Best Of - Top 5 Episodes of 2023 [434]

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[00:00:00] Hunter: You're listening to the Mindful Parenting Podcast, episode number 434. And it's a very special episode today, my friend. It is the 2023 Best Of episode, and we have the top five most downloaded episodes from 2023. And I'm going to be able to present these to you in reverse order from number five. To the number one most downloaded episode.

So this is a very exciting episode. Hold onto your hats. You're gonna remember some awesome things if you've already listened to these episodes or you're going to, here are some awesome things if you haven't listened. So let's dive in.

Welcome to the Mindful Parenting Podcast. Here it's about becoming a less irritable, more joyful parent. At Mindful Parenting, we know that you cannot give what you do not have. And when you have calm and peace within, then you can give it to your children. I'm your host, Hunter Clark Fields. I help smart, thoughtful parents stay calm so they can have strong, connected relationships with their children.

I've been practicing mindfulness for over 25 years. I'm the creator of the Mindful Parenting course, and I'm the author of the international bestseller, Raising Good Humans. And now, Raising Good Humans Every Day. 50 simple ways to press pause, stay present, and connect with your kids. So drum roll three, please.

The number five most downloaded episode of 2023 is episode number 3 92. How to Handle Boys and Aggression with Tosha Shore. In this snippet of the podcast, you're going to hear a story about TOSA's experience with parents who were frustrated with their boys' wild behavior and aggression. You're gonna find out how they were able to.

experience a really quick transformation and turnaround by changing the way they approach their parenting.

I'm curious about what do you see as kind of the old traditional authoritarian methods that have not helped boys? And why?

[00:02:19] Tosha Schore: Well, let me just tell you about a parent that I was working with yesterday, a dad. Okay. He came to me with his partner. Um, they have a five year old who is struggling. He is, um, hurting himself, banging his head against the wall, throwing things, breaking things, going after his baby brother, um, you know, hitting his parents.

I mean, it, it, there's a lot of aggression happening and they're terrified. And when they came to me, I've only been working with them for two weeks, so when they came to me at first, this is not very long ago, they were literally frozen in fear. So much so that I couldn't even teach them any practical tools yet.

I just said straight up, look, we've got to get you into good enough parenting shape to even be able to try any of these things. You're so scared that you're frozen. And so we, I mean, I'm obviously paraphrasing, right? Not necessarily, I would talk directly to the parent, but, um, yesterday when I talked to him, this is one week later, he looked completely different.

Like he was a much more relaxed and he shared, I always start out with having them, having my clients like share. a win, a time when they felt proud of themselves as a parent or a time when they felt particularly connected to their sweet boy. And he was able to share many. And he said, actually, things are going a lot better.

And, and I asked him why and what, you know, he had several reasons. And what, one of the reasons, was that he said he had been really fearful of letting go of the more traditional, harsher methods of discipline because he felt like peaceful parenting was just sort of being a pushover. And he didn't want to be that, and he didn't want to model that for his kids.

And he said, but what I've noticed is that the harsher I come in, the more upset I get, and the harsher I am with my punishment. Coming back to your question, you know, if I put him on timeout, if I isolate him, if I yell, if I raise my voice, if I shame him in any way, he said the behaviors just like skyrocket immediately.

Like it's an immediate, it's like throwing, um, lighter fluid on a fire. It just explodes in my face, he said. And he said, but, but, but I, so I'm realizing that like this is the only way I have to do the work so that I can stay calm and show up. And like when I'm able to be playful, for example, or, or remember that he's struggling and I'm the adult here to help him, things go much better.

He said, we've actually had like much less aggression this week than we've had

[00:04:51] Hunter: in a long time. I love that story. That's such a great example in an incredibly short amount of time. Um, but. But I mean, you know, I can imagine you see that a lot because if you start to take away the adult behaviors that are aggressive, right?

We start to just stop being aggressive, triggering our kids fight, flight, or freeze response and adding all that, you know, negative energy and, and to that, you know, stop like bringing the fist to the fist, right? There's going to be like a radical transformation. I'm sure that happens fairly often.

[00:05:29] Tosha Schore: Absolutely. And parents come to me typically wanting to fix their boy. Something's terribly wrong with him. Like, help me get him to stop doing X or start doing Y. Um, and over and over again, I have to say to parents, like, we're looking at this backwards, right? You're coming to me and you're wanting him to change so that you can change, right?

I'll stop. I'll stop getting mad. I'll stop yelling at him. I'll stop sending him on a time out. If he stops hitting his little brother and I have to reframe and say, no, no, actually that's not the way it works. It works the other way. We have to get ourselves into good enough parenting shape first. And when we're able to change our behaviors, you will see that you'll be able to implement tools that will allow your sweet boy to change his behaviors.

And it can happen quite quickly. But it doesn't happen first kid, then me. It happens first me, then my kid.

[00:06:30] Hunter: I hope you found that episode with Tosha Shore fascinating as I did. That was episode number 392, How to Handle Boys and Aggression. So go ahead and listen to the whole thing. It's awesome. All right, let's move on to number four. The number four most downloaded episode of 2023. This was episode 386, How to Help ADHD Kids with Seth Perler.

And in this clip, you're going to hear Seth talk about ADHD and the importance of executive function for planning and prioritizing. He explains that ADHD kids have a challenge in attending. to long term goals in self care.

Stay tuned for more Mindful Mama podcasts right after this break.

You talk a lot about executive function. Let's talk about what is it and how does it pertain to kids who are suffering, um, with ADHD and what are the things that parents and teachers should understand about it but don't really understand?

[00:07:40] Seth Perler: Well, executive function is how the brain, or the prefrontal cortex of the brain, or the frontal lobe, or the front third of your brain, if you put your hand on your forehead right now, the part of the brain right behind your hand, that, that is what helps us to execute tasks, to, so the word executive, the word execute, to get things done, to execute tasks, complex tasks.

So you and I are recording a show right now. We're executing a pretty complex task. In order to do that, we had to use different executive function skills to do this. We had to plan. We had to organize. We have to prioritize. Um, as you know, I have people that are like doing work on the house outside making all this Um, noise, they're using standards and stuff.

So I have to prioritize focusing and being present with you. I, I have to focus, pay attention, concentrate so that there's prioritization. So I'm prioritizing our conversation over the noise, but I'm also focusing. And in order to do that, I also have to inhibit distractions. So this is very distracting.

What I hear, and I'm sure you, the listener, probably aren't hearing this through my mic, but I'm hearing noise, distracting noises. So I have to inhibit those distractions. That's part of executive function. So impulsivity is following our impulses, inhibiting. is to hold back in certain ways. So I'm holding back from allowing myself to be distracted.

Anyhow, I talk about 13 different executive functions, but some experts say five or three or eight or 10. The way that I speak with parents and teachers, I talk about 13, but it's any of these skills. that I need to do right now to, with you, execute this task that we're, uh, doing right now. We also use executive function when we're playing video games.

We're also using it when we do homework and study and clean a bedroom or do a chore or do a job application or a college application or whatever jobs or tasks or things any of us are doing. For those of you listening, Listening to this is, is part of executive, you're using executive function to be able to listen and focus and concentrate and pay attention and, um, prioritize and know when you can kind of fade out and focus on other things and when you really want to listen or rewind it to a part or whatever, what have you.

So executive function is how the brain helps us get things done using all sorts of skills that are needed to get. Now the problem that we have with executive function comes when there are non preferred tasks that need to be done in our own best interest. And part of executive function is future thinking.

And a lot of times as young people we don't have very good executive function to think through the consequences, good or bad, in the future. Oh, if I do this, this will set me up for a better future. If I do this, this is going to cause some problems. So, um, but that is part of executive function that develops is this future thinking.

So when it's in the moment. And we don't see a need for it, and it doesn't seem like a priority, and how do we empower somebody to do the things that they need to do to plant seeds in their life for a great future when there's this resistance because it doesn't seem important, and it's a non preferred activity, and there's so many things that are more fun, that are easier, uh, that are more preferred that we'd rather be doing with our time than whatever the thing is like homework or organizing or whatever.

Brushing our teeth even or whenever the thing

[00:11:14] Hunter: is. Okay. So now as that relates to ADHD, how does that, so when talk about executive function, obviously we need it for all these things, our, our society, right? So we're not. We're, we're kind of like, uh, you know, we're not, we're not running around following every impulse which would be incredibly dangerous.

And how, how does that relate to ADHD?

[00:11:35] Seth Perler: A hundred percent relates to ADHD. ADHD essentially, if you were to look at my list of 13 executive functions, ADHD is all about those things. Now, if you look in the DSM, you can, I think, I think the DSM has three groups of six challenges with ADHD that you look through, but, um, either way, um, exactly, ADHD is about, it's attention, it's called Attention Deficit Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactive, Hyperactivity Disorder.

So, and the DSM is called a different things at different times. And then there are different sub types of ADHD. Either way, what I want you to think about is the word attention, okay? How do we attend, or focus, or concentrate, or prioritize, or plan? These are all about what are we attending to? And when they say deficit, you know, there are a lot of people who complain about the word deficit for a good reason.

Because it can be misleading. Um, but Because there, the person with ADD does have a lot of attention going in different places, but the deficit would, if you're going to use that word, would be coming in, how do we attend to the places that are important? So there's a deficit in attending to the things that are important to get our long term self care future goals met, um, and people, uh, take issue with the word disorder, you know, it can be very, um.

Sure. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Hyperactivity has everything to do with impulsivity and inhibition. Yeah. So anyhow, they are, uh, ADHD is an executive function disorder.

[00:13:14] Hunter: Okay. Yeah. So if you're, if you. Um, you know, don't have the ability to inhibit distractions, to prioritize, to plan. You know, if that, you know, for whatever reason, whether it's, you know, it's developmental or it's practice or right, whatever, right?

Like there's a delay in that function in your brain that this is obviously something that's going to, um, have, have all these incredible consequences. Yeah. So yeah, we're still calling kids. Lazy and unmotivated. That's so sad. Oh my gosh, it's frustrating. 

[00:13:49] Seth Perler: Yep. Yeah. And then that goes to, and they could have called it many different things, and they could still change the name, you know, and you can call it whatever you want.

I encourage you all to call it whatever you want.

[00:14:09] Hunter: I think that's so interesting and just helps me understand ADHD so much more when he really breaks it down like that. So I hope you found that interesting. That is episode 386, How to Help ADHD Kids with Seth Perler. Go listen to that whole episode. It's awesome. Okay, number three, moving on to the number three most downloaded episode was episode 383, Mindfulness for Busy Parents with Shonda Morales.

And Shonda is a friend of mine. She's great. And in this clip, Shonda talks about the profound benefits of mindfulness practice.

Before I began a mindfulness practice, I remember thinking like, I'm not sure if I want to be more self aware. Cause I've had times in my life, like, painfully self aware. And I wonder sometimes if that's something that holds people back from practicing because they don't necessarily want to be more self aware if, if that self awareness is painful.

What, what do you say when, I mean, does, do you come across this? 

[00:15:23] Shonda Moralis: Oh, of course, of course. And I think that's, you know, a huge. Uh, barrier to some people sitting down and just getting quiet or still at all is the fear, that unconscious fear of what am I going to uncover here and is it going to flood me? Is it going to, uh, will I be able to tolerate it and, you know, will I just completely lose myself in it?

And so when we test it out, so I always just invite people to experiment with it. Um, and that, that edge, find your edge of where you, what you can sit with and be still, but not force. We never want to force and, and shouldn't feel like that. Um, but we realize often, Oh, I can tolerate a lot more than I thought I could.

You know, if we have. Uh, a little bit of guidance, and I think that's such a huge piece. I mean, the coming back to what you said in the beginning, especially when we're learning to practice mindfulness and meditation, to have a guided voice is so crucial, uh, because we can get lost in all of this, and, and it's not rocket science, uh, but you do need a guide and a little bit of somebody to kind of bring you back and show you when you might be getting lost in the judging because otherwise people's, I'm not doing this right.

I can't calm my mind, you know, I can't stop my thinking. All of those myths that we encounter around meditation.

[00:16:36] Hunter: And there, I mean, I know these benefits, but I'm going to ask you, because you're the guest on the podcast, so what are the benefits of, of this tolerance, right? That we, we talk about, right? Like we're learning to tolerate these uncomfortable feelings.

Someone might say, well, why would I want to do that? I just want to get rid of them. Yes. What are the benefits to this learning to be with all these things? 

[00:16:59] Shonda Moralis: Well, that's where empowerment comes in because when we can allow ourselves to feel, I mean, number one, we move through an emotion rather than, uh, you know, in denial or try to go around it, which we know without our emotions will always show up and find a way to make themselves known somehow, some way, if we're not willing to look and feel and go through it.

Um, and it is hard sometimes. Absolutely. It can be, and you know, intense. It can be very intense. And I like to use that word rather than hard. I mean, it can be hard as well. Um, so the benefits are that we are able to be there for other people. I mean, that's definitely something I've noticed as a therapist in those first couple of years of really practicing meditation and mindfulness is my capacity to hold other people's emotions.

Um, so, you know, as a therapist, obviously that comes in handy, but for all of us in any relationship to not become so easily triggered and you, with Mindful Parenting of course is about, and we've all been there and I still can get there, is, you know, when our kids are feeling intense emotions, we are, we feel it, of course we feel it.

It's contagious. We love them. We care so much. We feel helpless. Um, and then we're triggered and we're off and running. So, the more awareness we have. Uh, so being able to tolerate that and recognize, oof, I'm feeling it, I'm in it too, but I know how this feels and I know it's going to, um, crest and then ebb and subs and subside if I can ride that wave, um, if I've done that through meditation and through practice.

Uh, I'm more able to, uh, feel the unpleasantness of sitting with somebody else's intense emotions. So, um, we live our lives more fully, you know, it's a continuum of pain and pleasure and pain and all of those, um, dualities of the more grief, for example, if I can allow grief to come in, um, I lost my father like a year and a half ago through cancer and sat with him when he passed and yeah, and it was a very, actually a beautiful experience because I was able, it was.

So intertwined with love and grief at the same time. And so I don't know if I didn't have a mindfulness practice, if I could have sat through that and felt that intensity. Um, but it was a, it was a beautiful thing and a gift to him and to, to me. So that's a great example of how we can tolerate a whole lot and really not just tolerate, but open up the space and the capacity to live our lives, to feel.

[00:19:36] Hunter: That was a piece of episode number 383, Mindfulness for Busy Parents with Shonda Morales. It's a very interesting episode because we recorded that on a day where I had been having a really hard morning. So in the very beginning of that episode, this clip is from a little ways into the episode. From the very beginning of that episode.

You, if you listen to the whole episode 383, you'll hear that she helped walk me through a mindfulness practice to help me get grounded the very beginning of the episode. So check it out. It's an awesome episode. Really, really grounding, centering episode, episode 383. Okay. Number two, moving on the number two most downloaded episode of 2023 is episode 384, a mindful parenting coaching session, how to hold space for big emotions, and you'll hear me talk to Sarah.

And in this clip, you'll hear how she explores the connection between allowing yourself time to rest. as a stay at home mom in this time and her capacity to handle life and be more regulated with two preschool aged boys.

[00:20:59] Sarah H: But I think a lot of it came from, that's how I got love and validation. That you were, you were, you were achieving and you were doing, and you were being the good kid and you were. Mm. Um, you know, so there was no sleeping in on Saturday mornings in our family it was, you get up and you do all the housework.

So there wasn't Mm. You know, um. Breathing space wasn't a thing and of course my parents are of the culture where, um, you are, you, you do work and you work and you work and, and I know like my dad even in, in retirement now struggles with, with finding meaning and purpose because he can't do what he used to be able to do right and yeah.

[00:21:42] Hunter: Uh, and on the other side of work, there's like enjoyment of life, but there's also being on this earth, right? That's like, holy moly, we're alive on this earth. It's an amazing miracle, you know, like if we are working all the time. It's good. It's good to work hard. Like, yes, but a lot of the work hard comes from a sense of like, I'm not good enough and I'm not worthy if I'm not working hard, right?

Like, cause you're sensing that in your own, that kind of underlying message in your own upbringing. And so then to see this, well. What is it do I want to pass on to my sons? Do I want to show, what do I want to show them? Right? If I'm, if I'm modeling all the time, you have to live what you want them to learn, right?

So do you want them to Feel like, um, they need to be productive all the time and you, yeah, you got this hockey in the evening. You're watching hockey. That's good. I also play hockey too. And you play hockey. Yeah. Oh my gosh. You're playing hockey. Okay, good. When are you playing hockey? I, I'm not picturing this in the, in the schedule of the week.

[00:22:57] Sarah H: Uh, so Sunday afternoons, um, I'm part of a women's league, so I leave my boys at home with my husband. That allows me to, or it doesn't allow me, I don't need permission from him, but that allows me to, uh, that allows me to be able to go. And then the odd, odd Wednesday evening, but they're sleeping, so that's easy for him.

He can do his marking and of course prep day, I go and plant cake.

[00:23:20] Hunter: Okay. So I guess I just want to point out that there's some places to explore a little more leeway in your life. Because this is the most intensive time of parenting when you have a two and a half year old and a seven month old. When they're really like, when they're in like five and under, it sounds like that's going to be forever, Hunter.

What the heck are you talking about? It actually is not going to be forever, but it is the most intensive time as far as like intensive, just minute after minute attentiveness required, right? Um, it, things change as they get older, Even in this time that's, I mean, especially in this time that's most intensive, it's, you will be able to show up better for them when you have a chance to be you, when you have a chance to have breathing space, when you have a chance to really fill your own cup and really, really then feel, More relaxed, have your nervous system be at ease because you've exercised, you've gotten fresh air, you've had time with friends, supportive family, like we haven't even talked about have you, you know, when have you had time with friends, right?

But you're in a new place and all that stuff. So like prioritizing those things is actually the, you know, of the foundation. And so I just want to offer that it sounds like there's a pretty Often there's not a real, it's a really like complex and challenging situation to find a, some breathing space for people.

But sounds like for you, there's a 15 minute drive away, some breathing space and a conversation and maybe a regular schedule that could be set up where you could carve out a little breathing space and practice having a little more ease that would translate into you being able to be more present for your kids ultimately..

[00:25:13] Sarah H: Yeah, and I see, I think for me, Um, I hear that and I, I wish that for my husband as well and, um, and I think that's part of where the guilt comes in for me, you know, he leaves at six in the morning and he gets home at six at night and then he has dinner, helps, helps with putting the kids to bed and then he starts working again, you know, uh, and so.

Um, you know, when I carve out space and time for myself and I do things for me, I feel guilty because I see my husband, you know, working so hard and I'm like, well. And I'm, and I'm not, I'm not contributing to the family in any other way, right?

[00:25:59] Hunter: Like, um, Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, hold on a second. Okay, you taking care of your children is, this is not, not, and taking care of like all the logistics of your living.

This is not, not contributing to the family. That's, that's some crazy kind of logic that you have there because it's not a paid contribution. Doesn't mean it's not a contribution. I had a, my, I had friends who 12 years, no, 15 years ago now, they calculated how much money they would have to spend to make up for all the work the wife was doing, staying home with the kids and taking care of all the things.

And they calculated 15 years ago, 60, 000 a year in U. S. dollars. So I know that's gone up. So, yeah, if you need a monetary number for it, I'm sure you can find it, but I really need to push back on that I'm not contributing to the family.

[00:26:57] Sarah H: And I, and I know that's like in my head, of course, I know that's true, but I do know that I, I feel that, sort of viscerally.

[00:27:06] Hunter: Okay, so can you work hard enough to help him stop work, working so hard? No. Is, is you, you know, just being efficient every second going to help him, help him stop working so hard in his new job right now? No. And this is very similar to like, you know, if you have a sick person, you can't make yourself sick enough to make them better, right?

Part of, it's not that he's sick, I'm just saying, and I know that maybe that was a bad metaphor for that, but you know, like your, your work has, it's not, it's not, you can't adjust his work by you working harder or not working harder. So in fact, he needs you even more to be grounded. Stable, clear headed, right?

[00:28:07] Sarah H: Because he's going through a tough time himself. And the, the, the logical rational part of me that says, yes, this is why you're doing this, Sarah, so that at least there's one human in this group of four that can be calm.

[00:28:28] Hunter: I really loved connecting with Sarah and I hope that this episode has Help many people. It's been downloaded a lot. Obviously it's the number two most downloaded episode of the year. Check out the whole episode. There's so much there. It's episode 384 of Mindful Parenting coaching session. How to hold space for big emotions.

Okay, we're there. We're at the number one most downloaded episode of 2023. What will it be? To me, it is no surprise that it was episode 390, Conscious Parenting Roadmap with Dr. Shefali. Dr. Shefali is a legend, an icon in conscious parenting. She is the, she wrote the foreword for my new book, Raising Good Humans Every Day.

You can read that as well as so many other books. In this clip, she talks about how our unconscious expectations for our kids can lead to problems. And also, she talks about what our kids misaligned behavior means.

Stay tuned for more Mindful Mama podcasts right after this break.

[00:29:48] Dr. Shefali: We enter the process believing they will be a mini me or a better version of us, right? That's it. That's our fantasy. Be a better version of me and be like me. Uh, but better, right? And that is such a disastrous, uh, setup because A, we don't recognize when our children are not us. We don't celebrate it, but also we stop them from being themselves.

But then the worst thing we do to ourselves is we have this great disappointment, but we set ourselves up for the disappointment and we don't see that. So imagine relinquishing that and releasing all expectations. Now we're starting with a fresh canvas. And we're understanding who our kids are moment by moment.

And it changes every, every month. It could change at least in the early years. There's no, you know, repetition going on. There's, it could happen one time and then we could not see that behavior again for many, many months. Uh, but then as they grow older, recognizing that this is who they are and appreciating and celebrating them.

[00:30:51] Hunter: I think that's such a healthy way for us to be, you know, and it's such a beautiful invitation. I love that. Um, so you, you talk about, you have a chapter on Kidspeak and you talk, you say that all our child's misaligned behavior is a sign and this is an acronym for something inside gone negative. How does this help us?

Like, hold boundaries around that misaligned behavior. 

[00:31:17] Dr. Shefali: Well, the first thing is to understand that most of us humans, uh, but definitely children who haven't learned the skills yet to communicate articulately. In real time about their feelings. We have to give them a handicap, right? And we have to understand that when they're screaming or yelling or being disrespectful or unmotivated, it's not just a behavior in and of itself.

It's a symptom of a deep rooted cause that we need to tap into to understand the symptom. And that's why I created the acronym SIGN, something Inside Gone Wrong. Gone negative. What is, what's going negative? What's, what, uh, what is the misalignment inside my kid? That is causing the disrespect, for example.

So if your kid is being disrespectful, your initial egoic reaction is to yell back, to control, or to punish. But if you understood that, ah, they're just being disrespectful because they're disrespecting themselves right now, they are actually confused right now. They are actually stressed out right now.

The first thing you do is don't take it personally. The second thing you'll do, therefore, is not yell and scream back, which only makes it worse. Then the third thing you'll do is create a choice. And what are your choices? Well, there are varied, there are varied number of choices depending on the age and developmental level of your kid.

If your kid is under six years old, your choice is to, first choice is to make them safe. So sometimes you may have to hold them. Sometimes you may have to remove them from the situation. Sometimes you may have to put them in their crib or close the door or take out all the sharp objects. The first thing is creating safety.

If they're safe, now you have lots of choices. You can try to mirror them back and go, I get, I get it. I get it. You're angry. You're angry. Mama made you angry or whatever you want to say. Yes, Mama made me angry. And then you can both, can I, can I show you how you look angry right now? And then you can be angry and mirror the feeling, but you have to first create safety, then create validation, then mirror.

And I talk about all of these techniques in the book. And you can then handle the situation till the wave passes. If it's an older kid, you can create the boundary by leaving them, going, I see that you're in a mood. I can see that you are not in, you know, the right space to have this conversation. I see that you're angry with me, but you're not able to communicate.

I'll be back. I'm going to take a timeout. So all of this can happen once you yourself realize that it is not about you. It's about something going on within them. And your goal and role as a parent is to simply take that energy that they're pushing and shoving down you. Take it all and put it back on them.

Hey, I guess you're not feeling really too well, good right now. Hey, I think you're stressed out. Even just understanding that for yourself will create compassion and it frees you, it liberates you because the other way is to take it personally, which then makes you feel like you have to have, seek retribution right away, which makes you feel like it fixed the problem right now.

And that just causes so much dysfunction.

[00:34:33] Hunter: I love hearing Shefali talk about. Parenting, it just always sparks joy, sparks connections, sparks inspiration for me. So I hope you enjoyed this best of episode. Rock on for you for getting all the way here to the end with me, and I hope it's been a great year. It's been an awesome year doing the podcast.

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I'd say definitely

[00:36:58] Shonda Moralis: do it. It's really helpful. It will

[00:37:00] Hunter: change your relationship with your kids for the better. It will help you communicate better. And just, I'd say communicate better as a person, as a wife, as a spouse. It's been really a positive influence in our lives, so definitely

[00:37:12] Shonda Moralis: do it.

[00:37:13] Hunter: I'd say definitely do it.

It's so worth it. The money really is inconsequential when you get so much benefit from being a better parent to your children and feeling like you're connecting more with them and not feeling like you're yelling all the time or you're like, why isn't this working? I would say definitely do it. It's so, so worth it.

It'll change you.

[00:37:37] Shonda Moralis: Parenting for someone's

[00:37:38] Hunter: child is, it's a great opportunity for personal growth

[00:37:41] Shonda Moralis: and it's great investment in someone's family. I'm very thankful I have this. You can

[00:37:46] Hunter: continue in your old habits that aren't

[00:37:49] Tosha Schore: working or you can learn

[00:37:51] Hunter: some new tools and gain some perspective to shift everything in your parenting.

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