You envision such happy times going to the beach/lake/theme park, but here you are with a wailing child at 10pm at night, trapped in a hotel and worried about waking up the siblings (for double the misery). Vacationing with kids can feel like the farthest thing from a vacation—instead of giving you R&R, it’s tripling your workload and stress!
How do people go on vacation with kids and actually enjoy it??
Here are 5 tips to help you through your family vacation:
#1 PLAN AHEAD WITH YOUR KIDS
Depending on your kid’s age, you can involve them in the planning to help prepare them for the transition to a different place for vacation. Offer them some options and ask what is most important to them. This can make them more excited and engaged during the trip.
#2 BE AN EXCURSION MINIMALIST
Plan activities that both kids and adults can enjoy, such as visiting family-friendly attractions, exploring nature, or trying local cuisine, but don’t pack your schedule! Balance excursions with downtime for everyone’s sanity.
#3 CONSIDER INCLUDING FRIENDS
If there’s an easy friend relationship, consider bringing a friend or planning your vacation with another family so that the kids can disappear for a few hours, entertaining themselves in the playroom or backyard with hide-and-seek, freeze tag, and imaginary games. It adds up to less nagging you and more chill time for all. Plus parents can take turns watching the kids and going out!
#4 KEEP TO DAILY RHYTHMS
While vacations often disrupt routines, try to maintain some semblance of your daily rhythm for meals and naps. Consistency can help children feel more secure and reduce meltdowns.
#5 (IF POSSIBLE) CARVE OUT ADULT TIME
Your time with kids will not be relaxing, even if you are in a beautiful tropical location. No amount of wishing will make it so. Instead, shorten the family part of the trip and carve out a few nights away, kid-free instead. Tap family or get help via resources like Care.com to give yourself time without your kids. You’ll return to them a happier and more relaxed parent for having taken some time away.
#6 PRACTICE SELF-CARE & BEING PRESENT
Remember to prioritize self-care. A rested and happy parent is better equipped to handle the challenges of vacationing with kids. Take breaks when needed, delegate tasks to your partner or family members, and remember that you need to rest too. Practice to be as present as you can by noticing when you’re in planning/agenda mode, and returning to the present moment without judging yourself.
Finally, I encourage you to lower your expectations and focus on the little moments. Memories are often not made in the big events, but the simple in-between times. Acknowledge your vacation difficulties, but give at least equal attention to your wins.